I hear about using barriers for safer oral sex, but I’m not sure what that means. Do I need to use them? Continue reading “Barriers for Safer Oral Sex”
I went to Planned Parenthood for the first time fairly recently. I had possibly been exposed to sexually transmitted infections and I could get in there more quickly than I could get in to see my doctor. Also, money was an issue and I wasn’t sure how much of the testing my insurance company was going to pay for (some of those tests can be expensive and my insurance at the time paid what seems like random percentages of tests.) I was treated with great respect, compassion and no judgement. I got a lot of additional information about my sexual health.
Although I had been going to the neurologist and marking off the checkbox that says I have incontinence for years (thanks seizures!), the nurse practitioner I saw at Planned Parenthood was the first health care provider to actually address the issue as something to more than glide over or as an inevitability. She told me about pelvic floor physical therapy and that there are a number of excellent providers in the area who could probably help me. Although I wasn’t ready to look into it at the time, I have since and it has made a huge difference in my life.
That visit to Planned Parenthood also helped me realize that my relationship was not as emotionally safe as it needed to be and gave me the strength to stand up to my partner and demand more.
Planned Parenthood gave me basic healthcare and safety in an affordable and timely manner. The fact that our government is trying to take that away from our citizens is frankly rather disgusting.
Is fertility awareness an effective method of birth control? Continue reading “Birth Control: Fertility Awareness”
Why do I get so unbearably depressed before my period?
I will think about everything in my life up unto this point about what I have & haven’t achieved & weigh them out and the latter will be much more to me. I self-loathe all day & feel like the rest of my life will be horrible. I start to feel like I want to die. How can I stop feeling this way? Continue reading “Depression Before Period”
Is it possible for a man to achieve orgasm without stimulating his genitals?
Assuming the man is completely paralyzed in his lower half; therefore absolutely no sensation, are there any methods to accomplish this? Continue reading “Male Orgasm Without Genital Stimulation”
My second pelvic floor PT session started with my therapist and I going over my bladder log and talking about the prior week. By the way, I should mention that they know what I do and has consented to my blogging my therapy. Basically, I do not drink anywhere near enough. They told me that my bladder would be happier with me drinking more coffee and sparkling water than the amount of liquids I have been drinking, which woo hoo! Because, I love coffee. (I have just started tapering onto a medication that is supposed to make people not love coffee and it does not seem to be impacting me that way at all!) Continue reading “Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy Part Two”
This is basically pelvic floor physical therapy post two and a half.
Light bladder leaks is the current euphemism for wetting yourself or incontinence. I am not sure what the difference between a light bladder leak and a heavy bladder leak is. I do not think I have actually heard the term heavy bladder leak. Anyway, I have seizures, sometimes I pee myself with or immediately after said seizures. I don’t want to be dragging around a change of clothes at all times, so I wear a pad. This means that yes, I’m probably wearing a pad on dates. I used to get all nervous about the possibility of having seizures during sex (and yes during dates), I’ve mentioned that before. But when I started needing to wear pads regularly I had to deal with that as well. At first, I tried to hide it, taking them off as soon as I thought something sexy was likely to happen. That was kind of distracting though, because I’d have to make my exit to the bathroom when things maybe got unexpectedly hot and heavy. I had one partner that I wasn’t really comfortable talking to it about it, because it didn’t go well when I started to broach the issue, and I realized that that was part of his problem with periods. And that really the whole thing was his problem. (Also, probably a clue that maybe not the right guy for me.) (Bladder leak pads are basically, if not entirely, the same pads if you have girl parts – you can buy them with extra absorbability in different sections of the pad but I’m not sure how this helps, otherwise they just have different labels and prices.) Continue reading “Dating With Light Bladder Leaks”
This post is a little different than usual because I will be talking about a personal experience that can apply to sexuality for many of us.
Pelvic floor physical therapy is something done for a bunch of reasons related in any way to the muscles at the bottom of the pelvis or the bladder. When we talk about doing Kegal exercises or Kegal muscles, we are talking about some of these muscles. Some of the main reasons to go to pelvic floor PT are incontinence or small bladder leaks from things like coughing or sneezing. Painful sex is another reason people go to pelvic floor PT. Pelvic floor PT is also used for people who have difficulty with orgasm. Both men and women can be helped by pelvic floor physical therapy. I asked to go because when I have seizures, I can feel myself losing some but not all of my bladder control muscles when I lose bladder control and am hoping to use the muscles I have to not wet myself. Also, I am picking up bad bladder habits in an effort to not have accidents when I have seizures and I would prefer not to be incontinent, which is where bad bladder habits lead. These bad habits are already leading me to leak when I cough or sneeze sometimes. Maintaining bladder control with seizures is a novel use of pelvic floor PT, but maintaining continence is not. My experiences that I share here will mostly focus on continence and not other uses of pelvic floor PT. But there will be similarities with all reasons to go for therapy. Continue reading “Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy Part One”
My partner has epilepsy, what should I do if they have a seizure during sex? Continue reading “What To Do If A Partner Has A Seizure During Sex”
I have epilepsy and I worry about having a seizure during sex. Continue reading “I’m worried about having seizures during sex.”