Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy Part One

This post is a little different than usual because I will be talking about a personal experience that can apply to sexuality for many of us.

Pelvic floor physical therapy is something done for a bunch of reasons related in any way to the muscles at the bottom of the pelvis or the bladder. When we talk about doing Kegal exercises or Kegal muscles, we are talking about some of these muscles. Some of the main reasons to go to pelvic floor PT are incontinence or small bladder leaks from things like coughing or sneezing. Painful sex is another reason people go to pelvic floor PT. Pelvic floor PT is also used for people who have difficulty with orgasm. Both men and women can be helped by pelvic floor physical therapy. I asked to go because when I have seizures, I can feel myself losing some but not all of my bladder control muscles when I lose bladder control and am hoping to use the muscles I have to not wet myself. Also, I am picking up bad bladder habits in an effort to not have accidents when I have seizures and I would prefer not to be incontinent, which is where bad bladder habits lead. These bad habits are already leading me to leak when I cough or sneeze sometimes.  Maintaining bladder control with seizures is a novel use of pelvic floor PT, but maintaining continence is not. My experiences that I share here will mostly focus on continence and not other uses of pelvic floor PT. But there will be similarities with all reasons to go for therapy. Continue reading “Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy Part One”

Partner’s mother speaks to breasts and visits all the time

My partner’s mother is late middle aged but not yet elderly. I only met her a few weeks ago, but she keeps coming over to visit. He thinks maybe she is getting lonely so she is visiting him more often. I am not so sure. She looks at me and tells me how pretty I look all the time. Sometimes when she is speaking to me alone she looks at my breasts while talking to me. It is really starting to make me feel uncomfortable do I say something or hope it just stops? Continue reading “Partner’s mother speaks to breasts and visits all the time”

Oversensitive Glans Penis

I am uncircumcised and have no problem with sensitivity when I am not erect (I can touch it easily), but if it is exposed during oral sex it is almost unbearable. I can have sex with a condom on fine but the second someone touches it with their mouth I literally have spasms and have to push them away. Any advice on how to change this, it’s pretty annoying… Continue reading “Oversensitive Glans Penis”

Distressed and worried about STD’s after mentally ill partner cheated

I just found out my husband is a homosexual or bisexual and was using casual encounter dating sites as well as paying for sex. He admitted he slept with a guy. He’s bipolar and so I thought it was just because he was not on his meds but he told me he got checked and he was fine. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, then last week he had a nervous breakdown and admitted he was a bisexual. He is in the hospital and I’m in the process of getting a divorce. But why would he do this to me? I feel used and hurt, and mostly scared. I’m worried I might have gotten AIDS. Can you give me any comforting thoughts? Continue reading “Distressed and worried about STD’s after mentally ill partner cheated”